Question: How do you handle they naysayers and stay true to yourself without playing small?
How do you not play small to please other people? You know what she’s talking about right, as I’m sure you’ve encountered it at some point in your life? You shrink yourself, act small, pretend not to be too happy or too successful in order not to upset a certain person? I think most have had a taste of it? If not, consider yourself lucky because damn it is an odd encounter!
Here’s the juice:
- Playing small serves no one, especially yourself.
- Don’t take it personally. What they think is merely a reflection of themselves and how they see the world. Chances are they have a lot of soul searching to do, but that’s none of your business…unless they ask for help of course.
- Don’t assume. Their chatter could be positive, we don’t know so don’t automatically assume the worse! Until you can confirm, it’s a total waste of your time to ponder if someone has an issue with you. If you know for certain there’s an issue, please refer back to number three.
- People will always have something to say no matter what you do. That being said I make sure I find what’s important to me and consult the people that MATTER. You can’t please everyone and you should’t try, but when your confidantes are giving you feedback you should listen.
- If you are unsure if certain opinions matter, envision your last few hours on earth, yes I went there, but just do it. See all of the things you wanted to do but didn’t because the random opinions of others stopped you. Worth playing small? How heavy is that regret? I thought so, better carry on then (:
Bottom line, it takes a lot of guts to be truly yourself. If you stick your neck out, have an opinion, take purposeful action, it tends to put you out in the open and opinions of others become a fact of life. Look at it as standard and hopefully it won’t throw ya off too hard anymore. Finally, considering who we spend our time with is crucial. If we are hanging with people that don’t make us feel good, it might be time to reconsider the social circle. Energy is important and so are you. Don’t forget it.
Until next time!