I’ve received numerous questions about this topic from to how to find the right person, to where to meet people, or just dating in general. Now I do have a previous blog post that offers advice on where to meet people and expanding your search into the online dating world, but I figured I would break it down a little bit further!
My 3 main tips to dating in 2018:
- You’ll need to be social. We say we want a partner, but yet we don’t leave our bed. And let me just tell you, no matter how much you believe and practice the law of attraction that dream human isn’t going to unlock your front door, make his or her way up a flight of steps and gracefully waltz into your bedroom ready for the taking. I would also just like to say that if someone does do this, plz run. Go out and meet people! Go to the gym, the bar, the grocery store, the mall, networking events. Show up presentable and show up open minded. If going out is difficult for you then attack the online dating world, but this will still require some sociability and willingness to step out of your comfort zone. Bottom line, if you want something do something about it!
- Don’t make it such a negative experience! Dating is vulnerable, whether you’re on your 2nd date or 2nd year of a relationship. You put yourself out there, you let them in and you give trust to this human. If after the first few dates, nothing comes of it…that’s okay! You learned more about yourself, about what you’re interested in, and by no means do a few dates determine your future.
- Know yourself and what you want. What are your strengths, weakness, what can you offer someone, what do you need from a partner, how can you make improvements within yourself etc. The list can go on and on. This is about owning your positives and negatives and making good attempts to become a better human being, not only for yourself but for your future partner. Writing down what you would like in a person is also helpful. What are your musts? What character traits are important to you, what do you want their routine to look like, what do you want their core values to be, so when you go into a date you have a pretty good idea as to what you’re looking for. Of course you should be flexible, but there are usually a few musts and hell no’s that we need to keep in mind.
You can do it guys, just be willing, open minded, and self aware, but most importantly, be true to yourself. You are worthy of all good things including a great relationship. You don’t need to settle and you certainly don’t need to pretend to be something you’re not to gain attention from others. I don’t think there’s much worse than pretending to be someone else and still not getting the guy or girl. You are unique and special and it would be such a shame if you someone missed out on what makes you great. What you seek is seeking you, be patient because good things are on their way!
Until next time,